To Write Love on Her Arms Part 2
I am terribly late getting this blog posted. As many know I was in a car accident of sorts (my own car ran over my lower leg) and haven’t been able to do much without pain. But, I couldn’t wait any longer to get this one posted!
In March I did a photoshoot with young ladies in recognition to the organization To Write Love on Her Arms. So many people reached out to me to note that guys get bullied, too. And they’re absolutely right. So I decided to do a guys-only shoot on a really beautiful April evening. That’s when I realized my lens was malfunctioning. So I had to reschedule and it was a rainy, chilly night but I want to thank those who were willing to venture out for this personal project of mine.
Here are some startling facts I learned recently:
- Each year 1 in 7 males self harm.*
- 11% of adolescents have a depressive disorder by the age of 18.*
- A teen takes his or her life once every 100 minutes.*
- Suicide is the third leading cause of death of young people aged 15-24.*
- Bully victims are 2-9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims.*
- One in three students reported being bullied during the school year in 2013.*
What are we going to do about this? It’s a real issue that should have more attention from local organizations, as well as on the national stage. I started this project because someone I loved had started to self-harm and I wanted them to know that there is hope, there is a reason to live, their story isn’t finished yet. I know it’s not much, but getting the word out to even my local community makes me happy. It opens the door for parents to talk to their teens about these issues that many are facing. There is help. There is hope.
I asked each of the guys to tell me a word or a phrase that sits in their own minds–that they’ve heard from others about themselves–ways that they’ve felt/seen bullying. These are phrases that weigh heavily on them and that makes me quite sad. No one gets through adolescence unscathed, for sure. I have participants from middle school and in each grade of high school in this shoot. There were others that were sad at the first shoot, including worthless and weak. They were unable to the second shoot but I hope from the first shoot (the messy one) they realized my message of love.
I plan to do even more throughout this year and I hope you’ll partner with me when I hold different events to raise funds for TWLOHA. If you feel compelled to donate to the organization, visit the website. If you or someone you know needs help, it’s out there. Your story is important, and it’s not over yet. If you have an idea for an event to benefit TWLOHA let me know!
Thank you all for coming out!! I definitely want to do more to raise awareness and if you have an idea for it let me know!! If you know someone who has struggled and may enjoy a special photoshoot, feel free to email me about it. I want to give back to my local community through my talent behind the camera.
- 1. “Self Injury, Self Harm & Facts” on Healthy Place.
- 2. “National Comorbidity Survey–Adolescent Supplement” National Institute of Mental Health.
- 3. “Teen Suicide and Youth Suicide” Suicide.org.
- 4. “Teen Suicide and Youth Suicide” Suicide.org.
- 5. “Bullying-Suicide Link Explored in New Study by Researchers at Yale.” Yale
- 6. “National Center for Education Statistics 2013” PACER National Bullying Prevention Center.